still have the first spoon I bent - the silver mark
has a little bear and the words "in mind" on
it. I've never seen another silver mark like it, and
I certainly didn't see it when I chose it in the dark
from a bag of old cutlery. Weird!
Having a heated discussion is a good way to get the
level of distraction you need to get the fork to bend,
so maybe it's good to sit next to someone you know
you'll disagree with and aim for a controversial topic
(unrelated to forks). Just don't get so involved you
forget to check your fork!
keep holding the fork or spoon (by the neck area is usually
easiest for beginners), and every now and then, you give
it a gentle 'try' - using both hands to see if it will
bend. When it works, this will NOT require any degree
of force, it should go quite soft. It's tempting to use
a fair bit of physical effort, especially if it goes
a BIT soft, and you're impatient like me. It's better
to keep putting energy into it until it goes really soft,
though - especially if you want to do lovely twirly ones
like some of these. Using force will basically just get
the handle bend, which you'll never really be sure if
you just did by force or if you really got the weird
energy thing to work...
harder you try, though, the more difficult it is. You
need to be distracted, not really thinking about it.
Hold the cutlery at the point you want it to bend and
just 'try' it now and then with both hands. If it's working,
it will go soft for a few seconds. This can happen within
minutes, or take hours. Sometimes the whole thing goes
soft and you can twirl the prongs of a fork around each
other, or even roll up the bowl of a spoon (I've only
been able to do that a few times). More commonly, it
just softens at the point where you were touching it.
I get so many emails asking this: YES
you use your hands to bend it, but if it's working
it will go soft enough to bend with very little effort.
So PLEASE don't ask me "do you bend them just using
your mind?" as I'll probably get pretty annoyed
at being asked the same stupid question yet again.
didn't actually work for me at the New-Age session I
went to. In fact, only two of us out of twenty couldn't do
it at the session, and the other failure was a Reiki
Master (she thought maybe she was too used to focussing
energy in a particular healing way - fair enough, I wouldn't
want my insides contorting like these forks). As you
can imagine, I'd just seen eighteen other people bend
forks before my eyes, so any doubts I had about it being
possible were gone - I figured it was just a personal
failing of my own *sigh*. Sitting in the car on the way
home, though, I wondered if the particular fork I'd tried
just didn't like me. In the dark, I picked up a little
silver teaspoon*. It immediately
turned soft in my hand, and I spiralled the handle tightly.
I was soooo happy!
the moral of the story is that if it doesn't work the
first time you try, don't be disheartened. Keep trying.